More and more these days it has become common for girls to ask guys out. Its a new time, girls are more powerful, being treated like equals more and more everyday. Even though I am a women and I do believe women should have the same benefits in life as men, I don't think girls should ask guys out. Over the decades guys have always asked out girls, evaluation has made the male brain understand on instinct that the man should go after what he wants, and when he gets it, it gives him satisfaction. They like and need the chase. Evaluation is slow, as we all know because none of us can remember our ancestors being monkeys or cave people. Since evaluation works so slow, the male mind still understands the man being the one to ask out the girl. Some of my best friends are guys and I have had to help them out of jams when it came to girls on more then one occasion. All the psycho girls, had asked them out. And this is where I started to develop my theory.
I know that not everyone is the same, not all girls that ask out guys are crazy, more on that later, but the thing that not many people understand is there are things called rules and exceptions, this is what dating is all about. To be successful you need to understand the rule and not pay to much attention to the exception.
The rule in this particular situation is, guy asks out the girl. It does seem old fashion but lets face it, old fashion is in right now, and take a look at old couples most of them seem in love still and they did everything the old fashion way, maybe we should be taking some notes. Like I said before guys ask out the girl, if a guy likes you, and I mean really likes you he will ask you out, the whole "oh he didn't understand my flirting or "I am a strong successful women, I can ask out a man" or even the one that might be my favorite. "He's shy." These are all excuses, not explanations.
When a girl asks out a guy, she feels like she now has the power. The guy thinks he has the power since the girl was desperate enough to ask him out, and that is where the situation gets sticky, and evaluation starts showing through. All guys have to feel like they have the power in a relationship, they may not, but to maintain a healthy relationship he needs to feel like the bread winner. If the women starts to win the bread, where does that leave the man?
Although it might be tempting to be the one to ask out the guy, it just can't be done, maybe in 1,000 years when humans no longer have pinky toes will evaluation let women ask out men, but not now. Upon writing this I asked my brothers and my close guy friends what they thought of girls asking them out?
a lot of them didn't see the problem, they were the ones who have never been asked out by a girl. The others told me what they really thought. They all had the characteristics in common, needy, demanding, clingy, desperate, and above all a feminist bitch.
Although it might seem nice to be powerful and to ask out a guy, don't. If he really likes you, he will ask you out. If he doesn't ask you out, it means he doesn't like you. People these days try to hard to make things happen, to make their own happily ever afters, and that's fine. We all want a happily ever after, but you need to understand that to have a successful relationship, you need to let things happen, it takes two to tango, the guy needs to have some say in what happens too. So just let it happen, and if he doesn't ask you out, don't worry its not the end of the world. It just means he doesn't like you, why would you want to corner a guy into going on a date with you if he doesn't like you? Just pack it up and move on, because you can meet Mr. Right around any corner.
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